A couple weeks back on my Instastories, I started something called “#TreatYoSelfTuesday”. It’s an initiative of taking Tuesday, or really any day of the week, and making a habit of doing something nice for yourself. It doesn’t have to involve money, it doesn’t have to be elaborate, but it should be something intentional to be able to acknowledge it as a treat. From sleeping in, to taking an extra long shower, or going with that soda pop at lunch rather than water, maybe even taking the plunge and buying that sweater you’ve been eyeing. Pick one, pick two, pick as many things as you want, and you will have successfully treated yourself!
I know it sounds borderline ridiculous. There’s probably a lot of you who have the mindset of, “I don’t have time or energy for that. There’s not enough hours in the day.” Or the other mindset of, “I don’t need that. I manage to take care of myself without that one day a week, I’m fine.” — To both I say, treat yourself! Know your worth!
Knowing our worth involves so much more than just merely knowing it, it involves living it. I have come to a place in my life where I try to approach each day with the idea of living my worth; from getting dressed in the morning and feeling comfortable, beautiful, and knowing I’m worth that feeling. To savoring my morning coffee and living in that moment surrounded by my worthiness of that caffeinated delight. My worthiness is also to be found in the sun shining down on me, a hug from a friend, my parents bringing my oxygen down the stairs for me… I am worthy of all the goodness I have in my life.
The idea of “Treat Yo’self Tuesday” actually came from one of my favorite shows, Parks and Rec. Once a year, two of the characters have a day that they choose to live by the motto, “Treat Yo’self!” Nothing was off limits. They go all out and live their best lives for that day. Not only was the motto catchy, but the whole idea of it was great. Being that I’m an adult who’s required to have fiscal responsibility, I couldn’t just get anything and everything I wanted [even just one day a year]. So, that got me thinking… What about something more realistic?
Every day we make purchases. Some are basic everyday necessities, while others are impulse buys or items that we’ve deemed as necessities. I figured, since we do it anyways, why don’t we choose a day and allow ourselves to make it special. If we call something a treat, it takes on a new meaning; even if it’s as beautifully mundane as hearing your favorite song on the radio and singing it at the top of your lungs, and calling it a treat. I’m a firm believer in trying to find joy in the little things, and that once you do, you being living your worthiness daily.
I wish I could say that our worthiness came to us automatically, but it’s something that takes time, work, patience, and more. You have to strive for it, because it wont just fall in your lap. We are born with an inherent worthiness, and as Brene Brown would put it, “G-d for me, it a divine reminder of our inherent worthiness.” I actually have a little talk on it and delve deeper on my Instagram, under the “Monday Shpeil” Highlight. But, in short, the fact that G-d created us should show that we are worthy, without a doubt.
Knowing you’re worthy and living your worthiness will always be something that most grapple with. I think that once we break the (internal) sigma that acknowledging our worthiness may make us seem conceited, or that treating ourselves can seem frivolous or selfish, that we break these chains that have held us prisoner and are free.
Freedom is a beautiful thing. Instead of needing people or things to be worthy, it comes from within. Internal acceptance of our worthiness is the most beautiful thing of all.
After a series of three blogs on worthiness, I’d like to think I’ve covered my bases and addressed the concept in a very large way. From knowing what YOU are worth, to knowing how to LIVE that worth. I can’t say for sure that this will be the last in the “The Art of Knowing your Worth” series, but I genuinely hope that reading them has helped you as much as writing them has for me.
You are worthy, never forget that.
XOXO
F&F
